The Real Reason Affirmations Aren’t Shifting Your Fear

~ 5-6 min read time | For when you’ve done the inner work, but your body still feels stuck, tense, tired, overwhelmed, or on edge, and you’re wondering why nothing’s shifting.

Short on time? Here’s what you’ll find:

• Why mindset alone doesn’t shift fear for sensitive business owners

• How your nervous system keeps reliving old safety patterns

• What tapping does that coaching can’t

• A full ritual with flower essences, journaling, and EFT

Golden hour at Cookley Green, Oxfordshire

Why sensitive entrepreneurs can’t think their way out of stress (and what actually helps)

If you’re anything like the sensitive business owners I work with, you’ve done the mindset work.

You’ve journaled.

You’ve reframed the thought.

You’ve got a spreadsheet of affirmations you should believe by now.

So why does your stomach still drop every time a client emails you back?

Why do you still freeze at the thought of raising your prices?

Why do you still want to hide under a blanket every time you post something real?

Here’s the truth no one tells you:

You’re not failing at mindset. Your nervous system is just fried.

Why fear keeps winning, even when you know better

You learned the belief.

Maybe when you were 5. Maybe last year.

But either way, it started in your head.

“I’m not ready yet.”

“It’s not safe to be seen.”

“I’ll mess it up.”

“They’ll leave if I speak up.”

“If I slow down, everything will fall apart.”

You know it’s not always true.

But your body?

It believes it with its whole being.

Because at some point, that belief helped you stay safe.

And your nervous system — the one jobbing away in the background 24/7 — doesn’t care if it’s outdated.

It just cares about keeping you alive.

Which means:

• Avoiding risk

• Avoiding visibility

• Avoiding change (even the good kind)

Push Through Culture Doesn’t Work for Sensitive Changemakers.

This is where a lot of sensitive entrepreneurs get stuck.

You think you need more discipline.

More focus. More strategy.

But actually, what you need is regulation.

Because your body can’t take in coaching or guidance if it feels under threat.

It’ll nod politely while clenching everything behind the scenes.

That’s why the mindset work eventually stops working.

It’s not that you don’t believe the new story, it’s that your body doesn’t feel safe enough to live it yet.

How EFT Tapping Helps Sensitive Business Owners Release Fear

Tapping isn’t about bulldozing your brain into submission.

It’s about giving your nervous system the signal: “You’re safe now. We can let this go.”

We use EFT to:

• Gently discover where the fear came from

• Interrupt the stress loop in your body

• Create new safety around showing up, being seen, and taking action

It doesn’t erase your past, but it helps your body stop reliving it, especially in your business.

 Emotional Alchemy Ritual

Step 1: Choose a flower essence

Try one of these:

• Rock Rose — for terror, panic, or freeze

• Aspen — for vague dread or fear of something bad happening

• Larch — for self-doubt and fear of getting it wrong

Step 2: Journal on this:

What belief keeps flaring up — even though I know it’s not true?

Where do I still feel unsafe to be visible, honest, or in motion?

Step 3: Tapping sequence

Start with the side of your hand, tapping gently and repeating:

“Even though I know better, my body still feels scared, and I accept how I feel.”

(Repeat x3)

Then tap through all the points:

• Top of head: “I keep freezing, even when I want to move.”

• Eyebrow: “It’s not a mindset problem.”

• Side of eye: “It’s my body trying to protect me.”

• Under eye: “This fear used to keep me safe.”

• Under nose: “But I’m not in that old story anymore.”

• Chin: “I’m allowed to feel safe here.”

• Collarbone: “I’m allowed to be visible, even if I’m still scared.”

• Under arm: “I’m allowed to let go of this pattern.”

• Top of head: “It’s safe to do things differently now.”

Breathe. Tap again if needed. Go gently.

Ready to stop spiralling — and start settling?

If you’ve tried all the mindset tools and still feel stuck, there’s nothing wrong with you. Your nervous system just needs something different.

Let’s talk about what that could look like. No pressure, no pushiness.

Book a free Seeds of Possibility call

We’ll chat about what’s really going on underneath the overwhelm and whether emotional alchemy is the right next step for you.

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